The divorce rate in America is still hovering at near 50% and caught up in that statistic are a large number of children and single parents who are paying child support. The amount you pay for child support is typically based on the income of the non-custodial parent. Getting the best child support deal will depend on several factors including income and physical custody. As difficult as the situation may be there are some things that you need to keep in mind while custody and child support are being decided.
Always Have an Attorney
An attorney is there not only to make sure that you are protected financially but also to ensure that you have access to you children. Don’t go with any attorney either, find one that specializes in child custody cases.
You are Not in Charge, the Court is
Many divorced fathers are frustrated about sending their ex money particularly when they are not convinced the funds are being used in a manner they wish. Once you make your child support payment you have no say in how the money is being used. If you don’t agree with how the money is being spent then you need to document your concerns and take them up with your attorney, withholding child support payments can get you in a ton of trouble including losing your license or ending up in jail.
Pay on Time No Matter What
Even if you are trying to negotiate a reduced amount of your child support always pay on time regardless of the legal situation. The court is more inclined to be lenient to the parents who show good faith. Even if you cannot afford the entire amount then pay as much as you can on the due date. Falling behind can result in severe penalties. Not only that not paying creates an even more hostile situation between yourself and former spouse that can blowback onto your children.
If you are paying your ex directly rather than the court, then make sure that you keep track of everything and always get receipts. That includes receipts for school fees you have paid or doctor’s visits. If you ever have to go back to court then all of that will matter.
Do Not Involve Your Children
Kids have a hard enough time dealing with divorce as it is and it is your job as a parent to make their lives easier not worse. Do not drag your kids into the middle of a financial disagreement with your ex. Do not blame the other parent for financial issues this is not the children’s burden to bear, it is the responsibility of the adults in the family.
Child support and custody is a highly emotional issue and it can be difficult to be rational about the situation, but getting the best child support deal means you have to. Follow these tips to help you get through one of your most difficult situations.